If you’re a mom and you’re reading this, what I’m about to say won’t come as any surprise to you: Being a mom is hard work! This morning as my daughter and I were preparing to begin our homeschool day, she threw a drama fit. “I don’t want to brush my teeth! I don’t like my toothpaste.” Then came “I don’t like my hair!” Followed by “I don’t like homeschooling and I’m not going to do it!” The fourth drama fit came after I assigned her a writing assignment: “I’m not feeling the love here.” Four drama fits in under two hours. Whew! How exhausting!
Somewhere between drama fits three and four, we were sitting down in the living room and I broke through her tears to ask, “Honey, what in the world is all this drama about?” She told me she’s still scared. We talked about that for a while, with me asking the right questions and giving her the right assurances. And just to prove she’s a counselor/chaplain’s daughter, after I said, “Being scared doesn’t feel good, but it’s not wrong to feel scared. It’s OK to feel that way,” she replied, “I know it’s OK to feel scared. I know it’s not bad.” I was beaming on the inside when she said that. My husband, when I told him, just rolled his eyes and grinned.
I still don’t know how to take her fear away. I can’t. I can give her a million reassurances and tons of hugs, but there’s no magic wand I can wave to make those bad feelings go away. And isn’t that just a kick in the keyster?
She gave me a huge hug after our talk and we snuggled for a bit. Then she wanted to sit right beside me while we did our morning homeschool routine, all except for her spelling test. Even then, we weren’t more than two feet apart.
The morning passed successfully and we got through lunch and moved on to math. Two extremely ripe bananas demanded my attention before I was forced to throw them away, so my daughter and I decided we wanted to make muffins out of them. I dragged her white board into the kitchen so we could work out the math for doubling our muffin recipe. She’s been introduced to fractions, but she’d never done things with them, like adding, converting or reducing. With just one explanation, she got it! We were both flying, because she finally had a challenge in math, she was still learning it quickly, plus we now have a bunch of yummy whole wheat banana muffins for breakfast.
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- The “Me-Time Myth” Myth (debrakb.blogspot.com)
- Three Secrets of Caring For Aging Parents: Hugs, Humor and Attention (blogs.forbes.com)
- The Top 10 Homeschooling Advantages (brighthub.com)